I’m A Stay-At-Home Mom, Should I Get A Job?

“A good mother and devoted wife is a priceless blessing in any family. There is just no amount of money that can be attached to this role. The value of a devoted wife and mother is priceless and deserves compensation and the courts know that. But the fact is that life is not fair, and your ex may not be able to pay what you deserve. Use your attorney to get what you can but know that the best approach will include a sound game of reeducation, reentry into the work force, and a positive attitude that you are capable of great things.”

I'm A Stay-At-Home Mom, Should I Get A Job?

To Work Or Not During A Divorce?

Q: I’m a stay-at-home mom. I’m getting divorced. Should I get a job?
A.
If it looks like divorce is inevitable and you’ve been a stay at home mom, you will have to do a great deal of planning to support yourself in your post-divorce life. Here are some tips for before, during and after the divorce.

1. Planning Before Divorce:
First, look at your skills. If you have a college degree or some kind of training, you can focus on getting those skills up to date and ready for the job market. If you don’t have skills, now is the time to start working on acquiring them, and the sooner the better. Look to see if there is a local career counselor who specializes in counseling women re-entering the job market.

 It’s best to go ahead and get a job and start working before the divorce is final. For one thing, it will build up your confidence and show you that you can make it on your own. Another reason is that you will need credit and a work history for a mortgage, apartment or credit cards. It’s a good idea to have a work history of earning your own money, even if it’s just a short time such as three to six months.

What Can I Say That’s Actually Helpful in Times of Grief?

“When a friend loses a loved one, our hearts ache for them. We want so much to comfort, soothe and make things better, yet we end up sputtering out the wrong words because we don’t know what to say when someone dies. There will be times outside the funeral when you will see your friend or family member whose loved one has died. Don’t avoid the situation completely. The first time you see the person go ahead and offer your condolences. If you avoid the situation, you will either make the other person uncomfortable or lead them to believe that you haven’t yet heard the news.”

What Can I Say That's Actually Helpful in Times of Grief?

Dear Lifehacker,
This year has been a very difficult one for me. A close friend passed away and a few other people I know also lost loved ones. I never know what to say or how to act at times like these. What can I say when nothing seems appropriate or it all sounds like cliches?

Signed,
Stumbling for Words

Dear Stumbling,
We’re sorry to hear that. It’s hard not to feel at a loss for words. When someone you care about or know is grieving, words don’t seem to be enough. Expressing your care and support, though, could do a world of good for both the other person and yourself.

 While there’s really no “right” or “wrong” way to help someone grieve, some things might be better to say than others. I spoke with several mental health experts and those familiar with bereavement to find the best approach for this awkward and tough situation we unfortunately all experience.

What to Avoid Saying

Some phrases and words of advice, even if they’re well-intentioned, could make others feel worse and magnify their grief. In general, try to avoid:

Comparing their loss to yours: When someone dies, it makes us think about our own experiences, but saying “I know just how you feel—when my mother/friend/dog died last year…” isn’t comforting. Even though you’re trying to help or connect by empathizing, it might feel insulting to the other person, like you’re trying to minimize the pain he or she is feeling. Andrew Moore, a licensed professional counselor at the University of Oklahoma HSC, says that even if there are similarities to your experiences, their experience is still unique to them. Every death is also unique. A more appropriate response may be to acknowledge—without direction and empathy—that this is a difficult time, e.g., “This must be very difficult, and I can’t truly understand what it must be like right now,” offers clinical social worker Stuart Strauzer. Then give more comforting words or gestures of support (see below).

Read more: http://lifehacker.com/5941009/what-can-i-say-thats-actually-helpful-in-times-of-grief

10 Best Beach Activities for the Family

“The weather was just perfect to hit the beach this weekend. Although all children seem to love being on the beach, sometimes you need to have some ideas for keeping them entertained above and beyond swimming and building sandcastles. Get ready for fun in the sun and sand. Once your little kids have exhausted the waves, there are plenty of land-based activities to keep them busy until sunset.”

best beach activities for the whole family

Do your summer plans say BEACH?  If so, you’re going to love this list of fun things to do with kids.

Honestly, it takes a lot to motivate me to go to the beach.  Mostly, because I don’t enjoy sunbathing, I seriously turn another shade of brown within 10 minutes of being in the sun. I love my sun-kissed skin color just the way it is.  So with that said I try to plan activities that our kids will enjoy doing at the beach which they can enjoy under the umbrella for some shade breaks.

Most of these activities were not planned before I left home so I had to work with the things I found around the beach and where we were staying. Which makes them pretty simple and easy to put together. Also, I usually search the internet after I write a post or in preparing for an article just to see how original my work is and I must say I didn’t find any articles that had these unique activities in their post. Most of them had things like go find seashells, make a sand castle… and those are great but I wanted to share something different.

So enjoy our unique list of beach activities for you and your family.

Read more: http://inspiredbyfamilymag.com/2013/05/18/10-best-beach-activities-for-the-family/

51 Fun Weekend Ideas for Your Family

“Children learn their most impactful lessons at home. The examples parents present have a greater effect on the choices children later make than any other outside force. Planning a family holiday can be a lot like planning dinner. You may think it is quicker and easier if you make all the decisions, but including the kids in the planning process helps avoid sulks, and will buy you some time to indulge in window shopping or a sneaky afternoon nap. While weekends are a time for relaxation and rejuvenation, they also provide the perfect opportunity for lessons in physical fitness. Setting the standard for physical activity early in their lives will benefit your children into adulthood.”

51 Fun Ideas For weekend

Monday morning I met John at the cafeteria. He was brewing coffee and I was there for a cup of tea. He sighed in between the conversation and said “5 more days”. Seeing my puzzled look, he explained further – “to the weekend”. We all wait for the weekend the whole week. Almost 60 hours of time, but most of the time we don’t really pre-plan to do anything on a weekend.

There are so much to do, there are people around, things around. You need to find time and company of your family and friends. I have prepared 51 family fun ideas, these can be applicable to your friends as well.

If I ask, you may say “something fun”. Well, what exactly? I was searching for it for years. These days my fun is sitting in front of the computer and blogging my way through the weekend. Obviously, SMB hates it.

If you ask me how many we do from below. I’ll seriously have to think if we do any. I prepared this list out of my not-so-creative mind. See, if you find a few interesting

51 Weekend ideas that are certainly entertaining and fun yet inexpensive

  1. Go for a fun bike ride. Make sure you look onto bicycle safety. Odds are your family will enjoy cycling for sure. Buy the best bike ever and enjoy outdoor activities. You will be able to implement good habits, too.
  2. Buy a kite. You can even buy a remote control model (Search “RC airplane” on Google). RC airplanes are a lot of fun. Apart of being trendy, this is an innovative and sophisticated toy. Most families enjoy playing with RC models. Don’t hesitate to ask for specifics and guidelines.
  3. Play Frisbee or catch. What if you don’t own one? You can get a plastic disc, a lid may be. Thus, homemade options are viable. There are no excuses in terms of money. You can play non-stop or until you get tired.
  4. Choose a tour. You can consider touring a fun and historic local establishment, such as a radio station, an old newspaper, etc. You will be amazed on the many benefits that this can bring right away. It is about becoming in touch with local culture, too. Ask around and try to spot the best place.

Read more: http://onecentatatime.com/51-frugal-fun-weekend-ideas-for-a-family/