“It’s difficult to address the subject of casual sex. Sexual intercourse means different things to different people. If you were to just walk up to a woman and ask her if she is the type to have sex on the first date, what do you think her response would be? No? You got it. Most women will tell you right off the bat that sex on a first date is NOT going to happen. If you think that means that it is totally out of the question and that you CANNOT have sex on a first date with a woman, think again.”
Along with not wearing white after Labor Day (seriously?) and waiting for a guy to ask you out (eff that), you can add “Don’t have sex on a first date” to the list of rules that are now considered one hundred percent outdated.
We used to think that falling into bed with someone too soon would disqualify you from being considered girlfriend material. But welcome to 2013, when the world is a lot less sexist than it used to be.
“In this day and age, more people recognize sex as an important component of a successful relationship, not something to be ashamed of,” says Justin Lehmiller, PhD, a social psychologist at Harvard who studies relationships and sexuality. “For those people, it’s important to establish sexual compatibility early on, and having sex on the first date may be the right move for them.”
Ultimately, getting nekkid with some dude you’ve known for only 2.5 hours may not be your thing, and that’s fine too. The point is that hard-and-fast dating rules (like “No sex till date three”) and old-fashioned expressions like the vile “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” are antiquated and harmful—they produce all this unnecessary anxiety and shame about something normal and natural: dating and sex.
“If you take control from the beginning, your destiny is in your hands. You really do have the power to choose who falls in love with you, so pick well. Third dates are special. They’re the transition from casual dating to a budding relationship. Learn how to make the best out of what is arguably the most important date of any early relationship. Use these third date tips and ideas, and you’ll definitely have a memorable, fun and romantic start to a perfect romance.”
And That’s Why You’re Single
Alot has been written about the first date. How to dress, how to act, how to pretend that you’re a decent guy. The truth? That’s the easy part. On the first and second dates, you’re still coasting on the initial rush of attraction, the exchange of backstory, the spark of the unknown. Date Three brings something else entirely: reality. And there are many ways to botch it.
Avoid these 10 Third Date Blunders:
YOU SERVE A LIQUID DIET
During a first date, drinks are hard to beat. Neither party is locked into the rigid structure of a sit-down dinner, so, happily, you can bail at your convenience. (And save a hundred bucks.) As a second date, drinks are still acceptable, providing you mix up the venue and show a bit of range. As a third date, drinks suggest three things: 1) you are cheap; 2) you are boring; 3) you are an alcoholic.
“Many women often consider getting a marital separation when they’re unsure if they really want to file for a divorce. Protecting yourself from financial harm and having ready access to the financial resources you may need during your divorce is important. If you’re getting divorced or dissolving your civil partnership you may have to act quickly to protect your finances, especially if the break-up is acrimonious. You may not need to take all the steps outlined below, but it’s important that you know your rights and responsibilities.”
Nobody wants to plan for a divorce, but it is vital to protect yourself in the event it happens. Should a divorce be on the horizon, it is important to follow this advice to put yourself in a stronger financial position and shield your relationship with loved ones.
Do gather important financial documents
Collect all of your financial records and deliver copies to your parents or a trusted friend. Also consider keeping them in a safety deposit box that your spouse can’t access. Having all of your records handy will save you time and money as you won’t have to reprint financial documents that your spouse may later try to hide.
Do open a new checking and savings account
It is important to open a new checking and savings account at a bank that is separate from all other joint accounts. Be sure to keep enough money in your new checking account to pay for two months of living expenses and put the rest in an interest-bearing savings account. During your divorce, you will likely need quick access to money to pay a bill or make a down payment, so it is vital not to lock-up your money.