What Does Dating Mean?

“The term “Dating” is used explain countless different kinds of relationship. “Dating” suggests various things to totally different individuals. What does dating mean to you? “Dating” can define an intimate relationship of two individual. The relation could also be sexual, however it doesn’t mean dating. It is going to be serious or casual, straight or gay, short or long-run only. In very simple words, dating refers to mutual agreed upon social activity in public or meeting & engaging as a couple.”

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One of my biggest takeaways while exploring Western Europe for six months was a conversation I had with an Austrian couple. Within a few minutes of meeting in an Irish pub, the lady of the couple asked, “So, is dating a construct of Hollywood? Do Americans really go on… dates?”

I learned a lot while in Ireland (and France, Belgium) about romance and relationships, and you can read all about my adventures elsewhere (see: What Does Shifting Mean in Irish Slang, and Dating in Ireland). But what struck me the most was that there isn’t a word in many languages for what North Americans call “dating”, and that, in fact, few cultures around the world actually “date”. So what does it mean, to date? And how to other people get to know one another before committing, having casual sex, or something else? These were the most pressing questions my friends back home wanted to know, so I went out in discovery of answers.

Read more: http://dating.about.com/od/reference/fl/What-Does-Dating-Mean.htm

6 Dating ‘Issues’ That We Should Stop Worrying About

“Confidence, like other great qualities, is a habit. It’s what you repeatedly do, over and over, that makes you appear confident.  But not only will dating be easier when you strip away some of your stress and anxiety, but in the process, you yourself will become even more of a person that other people want to be around, maybe even date. But there are things you can do to stop the miserable cycle that you have found yourself in.”

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No one ever said that dating and relationships were easy. If they were you probably wouldn’t be reading this article. Still, I think that we all tend to make this business of trying to find love harder than it has to be. We over-analyze, we obsess, we nitpick, we get jealous.

Here’s a radical dating strategy: just chill the fuck out. If everyone relaxed about a handful of things, plenty of the stress and drama that goes hand in hand with courtship could be eliminated. Then we might all enjoy dating more, and could redirect our leftover attention to more valuable things, like the government shutdown or global warming or if your roommate knows you borrowed her blender to make adult slushies last weekend. Here are the top six things you should never worry about again.

1. Your “Number”: Or, for that matter, anyone’s number. No one on God’s green earth needs to know how many people you’ve slept with, because it’s none of their damn business. The amount of people you have, or haven’t had sex with, reflects exactly nothing about your character, and thinking it’s some kind of metric of how worthy a human being you are is outdated and gross. If you’re the kind of person that likes to keep a secret coded chart of everyone you’ve hooked up with for your memoirs or whatever, then go for it. But feeling bad about yourself because you think you’ve been with too many or too few people is a waste of your precious energy.

Read more: http://www.thedatereport.com/dating/advice/6-dating-issues-that-we-should-stop-worrying-about/

Sex on the First Date

“It’s difficult to address the subject of casual sex. Sexual intercourse means different things to different people. If you were to just walk up to a woman and ask her if she is the type to have sex on the first date,  what do you think her response would be?  No?  You got it.  Most women will tell you right off the bat that sex on a first date is NOT going to happen.  If you think that means that it is totally out of the question and that you CANNOT have sex on a first date with a woman,  think again.”

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Along with not wearing white after Labor Day (seriously?) and waiting for a guy to ask you out (eff that), you can add “Don’t have sex on a first date” to the list of rules that are now considered one hundred percent outdated.

We used to think that falling into bed with someone too soon would disqualify you from being considered girlfriend material. But welcome to 2013, when the world is a lot less sexist than it used to be.

“In this day and age, more people recognize sex as an important component of a successful relationship, not something to be ashamed of,” says Justin Lehmiller, PhD, a social psychologist at Harvard who studies relationships and sexuality. “For those people, it’s important to establish sexual compatibility early on, and having sex on the first date may be the right move for them.”

Ultimately, getting nekkid with some dude you’ve known for only 2.5 hours may not be your thing, and that’s fine too. The point is that hard-and-fast dating rules (like “No sex till date three”) and old-fashioned expressions like the vile “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” are antiquated and harmful—they produce all this unnecessary anxiety and shame about something normal and natural: dating and sex.

Read more: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/a4546/dont-have-sex-on-the-first-date/