A Love Not Lost: How To Reconcile After Filing For Divorce

Divorce is not often a permanent situation. Many couples feel the value of their marriage after the divorce. They want to reconcile after divorce and give another chance to their marriage. They try to rebuild their broken relationship into a better and more enduring one.


It is generally assumed that once a warring couple climb the stairs of the courthouse they are on a direct trajectory to divorce. But guess what, this isn’t always the case. Sometimes, divorce proceedings can turn on their head and open the path for reconciliation.

A great example of a focus on reconciliation is the Bandra Family Court. Over a period ranging from a few months to a year they successfully counselled more than 100 couples and made them realise the benefits of living together again. The general air of festivity that electrified an open air gathering of couples, judges, lawyers and curious onlookers would have had you believe that you were at a wedding and not in a court where the couples had come to perform the final rites of their marriage.

There is a misconception that when you file for divorce there is no going back legally and not enough has been done by lawyers, the court and even counsellors to spread the right kind of awareness about the options available to couples.

“Withdrawing a petition for divorce is one of the easiest things to do, and the law does all it can to encourage couples to reconcile.”

Fact: Withdrawing a petition for divorce is one of the easiest things to do, and the law does all it can to encourage couples to reconcile.

An interesting case that I was involved in entailed a divorce petition filed by Bimal*. He had been married to his wife, Manjari, for 10 years and they had two children together, a boy and a girl. Bimal wanted a divorce because he had ambitions to move abroad to expand his business. His wife was shocked. But even though she was born and brought up in a small village in Gujarat before moving to Mumbai after marriage, her humble background did not deter her from fighting for her marriage and taking on the system.


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