7 Tips For Choosing Your Maid Of Honor

“Planning your wedding should be a thrilling time, but often the burden of dealing with logistical details and intense emotions transforms this idyllic period into a quagmire of stress. One would think that selecting a maid of honor is one of the easier decisions you have to make. Choosing the person who’s going to stand up there with you and be your rock through the planning process can be tough. She has to be ready to take on some serious responsibility and feel close enough to you to want to make your day perfect. While we’re sure you have lots of options, only one BFF can fill the role.”

Weddings can be stressful even at the best of times. There’s so much to think about from the table decorations, to the music, to the photographer —choosing your maid of honor might just send you soaring into Bridezilla mode. Unfortunately we can’t all have Anna Kendrick as our maid of honor, but we can have someone of our choosing who we hold dear to our hearts. Your maid of honor could be a close relative, your childhood friend, or your colleague who is also your BFF. There are no solid rules as to who can fill this important position and if you desire, you can even pick a Man of Honorinstead. It’s your wedding, and your decision at the end of the day — but that doesn’t mean it’s always an easy choice.

It’s awesome that you can bestow such a meaningful title upon someone who is really important to you and invite them to play a key part in your wedding. However, there are often a ton of responsibilities that come with being a MOH. Some duties might include: planning the bachelorette party,performing a special speech, attending vendor meetings, and crafting DIY projects. That’s just the tip of the iceberg. You’re going to need someone who will be there by your side, through the good times and the bad, who can handle both the honor and the responsibilities associated with the task. So here’s a little advice on how to choose your maid of honor, if you want to designate one for your special day.

Read more: http://www.bustle.com/articles/124689-7-tips-for-choosing-your-maid-of-honor

Why I Won’t Be a Bridesmaid

“Whether it’s for you or your bridesmaids, having bridesmaids can make things very expensive. It’s a normal etiquette to pay for their dresses, which is part of the reason we commonly stick to less than five. If you decide to pay for anything else for them such as hotel rooms, accessories or gifts, it can get very pricey for you. Not to mention any extras they’ll have to pay for, such as they’re own shoes, a gift for you, any money going into the hen or bridal shower adds up too. Deciding to have no bridesmaids gets rid of some of the expense o ease those feelings of guilt that are bound to creep up on you though, here are valid reasons you shouldn’t feel bad about not popping the question to your best girlfriends.”

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“I’m sorry. I can’t. Don’t hate me.”

You know that line from an infamous Post-it note. But I know it from the multiple times I’ve used it to say that no, I won’t be your bridesmaid.

It’s not that I don’t love you. (I do.)

It’s not that I despise your fiancé. (He’s awesome, and I love how he makes you happy.)

It’s not that I frown on marriage. (It’s beautiful and fulfilling…I hope.)

Really, it’s simpler than that. I can’t be your bridesmaid because I’m too busy to attend bachelorette weekends, multiple showers, endless trips to the tailor, and…

Wait. Honestly? That’s only half the reason.

The other half is a gut-shaking feeling that’s hard to define and even harder to admit. But here goes: I can’t be your bridesmaid because I think bridesmaids shouldn’t exist. l think it’s cruel to expect your fellow besties to invest considerable funds and time into proving we’re your friend…at the very moment you’re entering a union that, by definition, means we’re stepping aside for your new “best friend and partner.”

Read more: http://www.elle.com/culture/news/a15338/bridesmaid-protest/

Read This Before You Choose Your Own Bridesmaid Dress

“Many brides are letting their bridesmaids choose their own dresses. The girls are usually thrilled — no more wedging yourself into something definitely not designed for your body type just to make your best friend happy about her wedding photos. Letting your bridesmaids choose something that flatters their own form and features can make you a very, very popular bride. With that in mind, it’s also important to remember the bride is supposed to be the central focus in all the wedding pictures, especially during the ceremony.”

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One way brides are personalizing their weddings? By asking their bridesmaids to inject their own sense of style into the day by choosing their own dresses. Allowing each ‘maid to pick their look helps take some pressure off the bride, and it ensures each woman will feel confident and comfortable in the dress. Plus, it looks great in pictures when it is executed properly — but that’s easier said than done. A color scheme and set of other guidelines must be established so everyone looks cohesive and complements the wedding décor perfectly. To help, designer Nicole Miller shares what every bride and ‘maid should remember when it comes to mismatched bridesmaid dresses.

A complementary color story is key.
The bride might think that providing a swatch is the easiest way to keep her bridal party aligned when it comes to the wedding’s color scheme, but Miller says that isn’t necessary. “I don’t think each bridesmaid needs to work from a specific swatch. It is much more chic, in my opinion, when the bridesmaids are in their own dresses in the same color story, such as shades of navy or beige.”

Dress for your body and style.
“Personal style should certainly inform the bridesmaid’s choice of dress,” says Miller. “It’s better to dress for your body and style rather than feel uncomfortable all night in a dress you loathe.”

Consult the bride before making her purchase.
Always send your possible choices to the blushing bride-to-be before buying your dress — it is her day after all.

Read more: http://www.brides.com/blogs/aisle-say/2014/07/bridesmaid-dress-shopping-tips.html

HOW TO SELECT BRIDESMAIDS

“As you decide how many bridesmaids to have in your wedding party, think through what you expect them to do. Ideally, bridesmaids perform duties to assist you and get the wedding off the ground. Choosing bridesmaids is a way to honor the people most important to you and to share your special day with them. Many people have trouble narrowing down the field, feeling that if they ask one friend, they must ask another, and so on. Don’t feel that because you were a bridesmaid at someone’s wedding ten years ago, you need to reciprocate the honor.”

How to select your bridesmaids?

Here are some tips on how to sidestep the misunderstandings and tensions that often arise with this important decision.

If you think selecting your bridesmaids will be a piece of cake, remember what happened to Marie Antoinette. Yes, ladies, add the title of diplomat to your list of bridal duties-especially when choosing your wedding party. Who you ask (and don’t) can be rife with turmoil.

Here are some tips on how to sidestep the misunderstandings and tensions that often arise with this important decision.

1. STAY TIGHT-LIPPED

As tempting as it is to discuss the early stages of wedding planning with every friend, use discretion in discussing your bridal party. Sit down with your fiancé first to decide how large a wedding party you want, whom you want to include, and whether you want to have an equal number of men and women before you start telling anyone.

Read more: http://www.colincowieweddings.com/planning/how-to-select-bridesmaids